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I can so relate with you and trust me, you're not alone. I got over this phase by urging myself to do something new everyday. It doesn't need to be something exceptional, just something random like taking a walk down a different road, talk to someone new today, look up the net on some interesting topic or some random topic, and use my time to gain some meaning out of life. It helped me, it surely will help you. You're feeling of numbness is due to the same routine and struggle. Sometimes we just need a reason....so make one. That's what makes life worth living.
That's what makes life worth living.
This is one of the great debates of life - whether we should kill ourselves or not. Worth is a subjective measure we impose on life. The universe is indifferent to our existence. It means nothing to the universe if our species went extinct overnight, no matter how much achievement and knowledge we accumulated and how unthinkable it is for us to conceive of us not existing.
On top of that, no matter how far our species evolves, we are still only investing in an impermanent state -- we will not live forever, our species will not live forever, and, in time, everything we have done will be forgotten. It doesn't matter whether we manage to colonise half the milkyway with cyborg-manned spaceships filled with self-replicating androids that carry the torch, or destroy ourselves in a nuclear holocaust. The end result will always be the same.
In that sense, we are just waiting to become extinct, collectively and individually. I think one of the most difficult aspects of being conscious of the vastness of the universe is that, though the life-force inside of you has this urgency to expand and evolve, you are all to aware it is all for nought.
With all that in front of me my attitude is to just enjoy the journey and not sweat it. My life will come and go before I've had chance to even grasp a fraction of what is going on. Whether life is worth living or not is down to the individual. Objectively, it doesn't matter either way.
Ok, I'm going back to my cereal.
Spend time serving others. Shelters, food banks, visiting seniors ... Find anything that's of interest and volunteer your time.
Learning is kind of an addiction once you're into it. What's crazy nowadays is you can learn almost anything for free
Web? Try udemy free coupons
Cooking, start with YouTube and r/cooking
A new language? Try duolingo or busuu apps
And so on.
Learning will get you on a curve that goes up and up and that is linked to self esteem, social skills, pro skills, future jobs, encounters and so on... Not saying it will make you happy in seconds but it will definitely help in months or years
My brother has spent 20 years eating Crap and being lonely. Kind of suddenly he turned to cooking, making simple things the perfect way, he is now a beginner chef, invites people to his place and make small moments great. Cooking is a good start.
Another example my best friend started working wood and making his own (simple) furniture. He met a lot of people this way, helped his friends moving in new homes. Those souvenirs last.
I am now following a web developer online course, I made it through front web dev and offered my service to someone who is SO pleased to have a great homepage for the service she offers. Cost me some time but who knows what I will gain from it in the future?
What online course is this? And is it free? Very strapped on cash
udemy is supposed to be paid but you will find hundreds of free coupons for hundreds of online courses 100% free
there is a post on reddit I think about it, or just google it
and don't forget food ! what you eat is SO life changing you won't believe it until you tried
and btw I am not an optimsitic person, I have been depressed myself, so advice doesn't come from someone who has spent his life in a fairytail (although I have nothing to complain about really, I am just a complicated being)
This. Too many people assume that passion is an innate trait, you either have it, or you don't. But In reality passion comes from mastery. There's a great book on this subject called "so good they can't ignore you"
It doesn't really matter what, but choosing to master something also gives you a reason to get out of bed every morning.
Find the newness in the world. I too work a series of smaller jobs and hustles to make ends meet. One thing I do to keep life new and fresh is to tweak small things daily.
Yesterday I worked upstairs so today I'll work downstairs.
Yesterday I took the highway home so today I'll take the back roads.
Yesterday I listened to my CDs so today I'll listen to the radio.
It makes life so enriching when every day is different. Even if it is something small, there is so much life in simply changing the small things in your day.
You say you feel when your lifting weights?? Go find a martial arts class or something- it will take your mind off of the fact that literally everything on this ball of dirt and lava and water DIES at some point, AND you’ll learn some nifty tricks for if you ever wanna fight someone
Read a few books: Hiroshima by John Heresy, The Gulag Archipelago by Aleksander Solseneitzchen (no idea for spelling. Lol. That’s the Russians for you), Ordinary Men, and even Crime and Punishment by Dostoyevsky. By learning of the great horrors and tragedy of suffering that humans can bear, maybe you’ll learn to do the same. And do something with your life so that others may suffer less.
Talk to a doctor/psychiatrist. Advice from them should be professional and better than what you’ll find on reddit. Further, there’s the option of medication - which for me when I felt similar greatly increased levels of motivation and made me feel less... empty, in a sense, but did come with other issues until I actually sorted myself out.
Further; exercise, eat healthy, maintain a good sleep schedule, and socialise at least occasionally. It can all feel pointless to start with, but exercising releases endorphins which will lift your mood and aid in motivation. Eating healthy and getting a good sleep schedule is important as failing to do so can result in increased stress levels, or other hormonal changes, that make you feel terrible. If you ever feel better of a morning, but rapidly deteriorate - sleep probably has something to do with it.
Socialisation also tends to improve motivation, at least temporarily, even for major introverts such as myself.
CGP Grey has a video on his Youtube for how to become miserable - watch it, and learn what not to do if you want to lift your mood.
I’d also personally look into things like Philosophy and Meditation, to help maintain your mind itself and give you new ways to think about things, as well as improve your ability to focus - which can help you control your thoughts and move past the apathetic feelings.
But seriously, see a doctor/psych. Its something they’re trained to deal with, and getting professional help should be a standard course of action.
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